Lisa, best of luck with your course! My Mum somehow juggled the course and being Mum of four, and it will not be easy for you (I juggled the course and a job for three years, no children, and that has been a challenge), but it WILL be worth it. Your children wont appreciate it all the time during this course, but in the long run they will, 3 years is not that long for the benefits and achievements you will gain from being a children's nurse. It is no real time span in their lives, and just be present with them when you can - and be productive when you need to be. A delicate balance, but definitely worth it. Enjoy :)
It isn't fair that you're putting in the hard work and she is reaping the rewards, or that you are made to feel obliged to help her. It's not going to be easy to change this, but best to get rid of this problem as quickly as possible because you still have two years of the course to go, and if she realises how easy she currently has it she will not let you go.
I'd advise doing your work outside of your flat/house, go to University or the library or even a friend's house to get it written and do so alone, this means you at least get to write what you want without her breathing over your shoulder. If this is too inconvenient, lock your bedroom door while you work or put your headphones in.
It will be difficult to tell her to back off, but try to tell her you want to work alone and if she asks to see your work (I know it can be really hard to say no), either offer verbal help, just with guidance or structure, or at an absolute maximum send her part of your work, just a paragraph or two, to help her get on - do not allow her to see all of your work. If she asks for references, give her an author or two at maximum or phrases to search for - finding references is a huge part of the work and her taking your references will make you both look bad if your essays look too similar.
There's nothing wrong with helping friends, and of course you should want to help, but you want to do the best you can and if you work hard for your grades there is no reason she should get the same results without the effort. Be strong and make it clear that you're not happy with how it is going! Good luck :)
Thank you so much Steven, your comments are so kind.
I think getting nurses, who find change difficult, to consider alternative perspectives is necessary. It is so easy for people to reject alternative perspectives that would significantly improve our care, and I'd love to at some point to be involved in raising awareness into those perspectives and encouraging nurses to think differently.
I'll definitely contact you if I do write anything regarding safeguarding adults.
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Thank you so much, that's such a lovely comment :)
You're very welcome, I'm glad you enjoyed it :)