Your browser is no longer supported

For the best possible experience using our website we recommend you upgrade to a newer version or another browser.

Your browser appears to have cookies disabled. For the best experience of this website, please enable cookies in your browser

We'll assume we have your consent to use cookies, for example so you won't need to log in each time you visit our site.
Learn more

Proactive Parenting

  • Comment

’Given the increases in stress, depression, anxiety and self-harm experienced by current teenagers, this is a useful guide for parents looking to understand more about how they can help.’

Title: Proactive Parenting

Author: Mandy Saligari

Publisher: Orion Spring

Reviewer: Kate Jack, PhD Student and Advanced Virology Nurse, Nottingham University Hospitals NHS Trust

What was it like?

This is a parenting advice book aimed at those with teenagers. The focus is on the prevention of mental health problems that may lead to drug and alcohol addiction. The author presents a framework around the need to develop good self-care practices and fostering a relationship with oneself that centres on dignity and respect. This book describes common emotional problems and is heavily focussed on explaining what addiction is, how it manifests, the impact on teenagers if parents have addictions and the effects of parental behaviour.

What were the highlights?

Being written by a therapist who has lived experience of teenage mental health problems and subsequent addiction, this is a heartfelt and authentic book. The notion of all types of addiction and associated behaviours being driven by fear (“Face Everything And Recover” or F*** Everything And Run” is a simple but effective explanation of how the responses to negative or stressful stimuli might manifest.

Strengths & weaknesses:

Given the increases in stress, depression, anxiety and self-harm experienced by current teenagers, this is a useful guide for parents looking to understand more about how they can help. There are summary boxes with questions for self-reflection, and questions for the reader to consider, so this is a book that encourages active participation from the reader. However, there are frequent references to the impact of parenting styles on teenagers’ mental health, which could be construed by some parents that they are to blame for their teenager’s struggles. For example, “the family is the greenhouse in which we grow from seed to plant”. The book’s emphasis on linking mental health and addiction could lead some to think that an addiction to anything from food to a class A drug is an inevitable consequence of depression/anxiety/stress so it is important for the reader to keep a sense of perspective.

Who should read it?

The parents of teenagers, and pre-teens perhaps too, who are displaying signs of pressure from social media, school and friendship group difficulties. Parents who are battling their own addictions and worried about the potential impact on their son or daughter might find some reassurances and advice too.

proactive parenting

proactive parenting

 

 

  • Comment

Have your say

You must sign in to make a comment

Please remember that the submission of any material is governed by our Terms and Conditions and by submitting material you confirm your agreement to these Terms and Conditions. Links may be included in your comments but HTML is not permitted.