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“Do I need to stop my studies to care for my mum?”

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Can you advise this student nurse?

“I’m a student nurse in my second year and I absolutely love it. I’m really excited to finish my studies and start my career but my mum was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. 

”It’s been really hard for the whole family. My dad has to keep working so my mom needs me to help take her to appointments and care for her at home. Of course I’m going to be there for her but it’s going to be a lot of extra time and effort and I’m not sure I can do that and keep up my nursing studies.

“My mum says she doesn’t want me to have to drop out but I don’t know if I can be a good carer or a good student if I’m stretched so thin. What should I do?”

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  • Hi lovely, I have been in exactly your shoes, my mum got diagnosed with pulmonary hypertension a couple of years ago. At the start of my 2nd year (sept 2016) her illness progressed and she unfortunately entered the 'end of life' stage. I cared for her for the last 4 years at the start of her battle, and it is hard to juggle everything I won't lie, but it is do-able. The last few months of her life were extremely hard, but throughout my mother was adamant I was not to give up my studies and dreams of bevom8ng a nurse. Don't get me wrong so many times I felt I couldn't do it and wanted to give up. But the Uni have been amazing, being open to them from the start and explaining I had to be there for mum and care for her, attend appointments with her etc, they were so supportive. At the end of April this year my mum lost her battle and past away. To say I was devastated is an understatement, I'm still finding it hard. I did managed to attend my last placement (which I just finished) and I felt so honoured I was able to provide care to patients even when I was going through the hardest time of my life. I've cried and cried, but in the back of my mind I can hear my mum saying 'keep going'. Knowing I can be there to support families going thtough the same is helping me get through this. Please keep going, don't be afraid to say you need support; if you need extenuating circumstances for assignments do it, but please dont give up. You will learn so much from you and your mother's journey that will help you become a great nurse. Keep strong, sending you and your family all the best for the future. You can do this. All my love xx

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