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'How can I get my friend to think positive?'


Can you advise this student nurse?

“I’ve got a good friend that I care about a lot and think is great, but she is the most negative person I know.

“We are both studying nursing, but where I tend to see opportunities for something great she just assumes that opportunity will lead to failure or just be unpleasant in general.

“For example, on one occasion we were receiving our new placements and my friend would not stop talking about how bad her injection technique was and how she thought all of the patients hated her. Even when I reassured her she was stubborn, pouted, and simply dismissed what I said.

“I understand her negativity may be how she copes with stress but it’s so hard to be around her all of the time, particularly when she won’t even listen to me when I’m trying to help her. She just feels like a burden sometimes and she brings me down with her.

“What can I do (besides limiting my time with her) to help this situation?”

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Readers' comments (3)

  • I've got a friend who is just like this. she could suffer with anxiety and she is probably just wanting do the best she can in any circumstance. Starting a new placement can be nerve racking but once she realises that she can do things you'll definitely see a change in her behaviour.

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  • We all can feel a little insecure at times .. sometimes you're doing well comments need to be more along the lines of I feel that way occasionally too.
    It is overwhelming, brilliant and hard work. She'll settle in eventually.

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  • How kind you are. however do look after yourself as some people end up draining us without realising it. Read about toxic people and the affect they can have on us.
    now does she have any intention of being positive because if not you need to think about how you are wasting your energy on her. why about yourself-dont you desert to have warm positive people around you.
    having said the above I do respect your concerns for her

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