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'I'm on placement with my ex'


Can you advise this student nurse?

“I went out with someone from my course for about 18 months but we broke up six months ago and haven’t really stayed in touch. It’s been really awkward and we tend to just ignore each other in lectures and, to be honest, that suits us both.

“But then I turned up at my management placement to find he was on the same placement!

“I’d been really excited for management so even though things didn’t really end well between us, I was willing to put it behind us and act professionally.

”Apparently he didn’t feel the same! He’s taken every opportunity to make me look bad and he’s constantly trying to turn the team against me. For example, the other day I was feeling really unwell so I called in sick. I heard later that he was going around telling people that I was probably faking!

“I’m too embarrassed to talk to my mentor about this and I don’t know what I could say to him to make him stop. This placement is really important to me and I don’t want him to ruin it.

“What should I do?”

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Readers' comments (3)

  • Tell your mentor and your university about the situation as soon as possible. You run the risk of looking unprofessional if you let him get to you. Change placements is my advice.

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  • Tell your placement mentor and link lecturer. It is important that you are supported on placement. As nurses and professionals they should be compassionate. It's your link lecturer's job to support you in doing your best in placement

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  • You are a professional, therefore you need to get on with the placement as a professional. You will come across all sorts of people in Nursing that may be a challenge to deal with and you have to remain professional.

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