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‘I’m struggling to make friends’


Can you advise this student nurse?

“I started my nursing degree in September and, over a month in, I’m still having lunch on my own.

“I just don’t seem capable of making friends, when I talk to someone they’re friendly and everything but I don’t know how to turn that into friendship.

“I’m in halls but everyone pretty much stays in their rooms and when I do see someone I’m too shy to say more than ‘hello’. It’s the same in lectures – everyone seems to have already made really strong friendships and somehow I’ve just missed it.

“I was bullied in college just before starting and it’s really knocked my confidence but I was so excited for this new start. I don’t know where I’ve gone wrong.

“I know this isn’t very nurse-y but does anyone have any advice?”

- Anonymous


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Readers' comments (2)

  • I'm sorry to hear this! I can relate as I experienced something similar in my first degree. What I'd suggest is join some societies, if you haven't already. It's a great way of meeting people and making friends!

    Also, why not just go and sit with a familiar face at lunch next time you are in uni. It may feel as though everyone has formed strong friendships already but it's not the case at all and I'm sure they'd love to chat with you!

    I hope things get easier! You need the support of your fellow students!

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  • I am in the same boat, whilst there are people im happy to talk too, a lot of them only tend to ask me to sit with them if they need something. I have been working for years to get into this profession and im taking the miserable approach that im here to do my work. Its not to say my groups arent friendly, i cannot fault a single one but when it comes to socialising im a bit out of the loop. I have just come from three years of open university to fill my time effectively whilst attempting to get in to university, and it is hard but also remember that they are probably just as nervous as you. Not everyone will have come straight from education. Speaking as a mature student, i think that is playing a big part in my attempts to meet other people.

    Societies are a great way forward but with my cohort we had a facebook group set up for the whole september 14 lot and we chat on there a lot too, maybe something like that as well? You dont need to be afraid to put yourself out there because everyone is there for the same thing

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