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‘My friend doesn’t take the nursing course seriously’


Can you advise this student nurse?

“I really worry about how my friend treats the course and her placements. She frequently rings in sick because she’s hungover and always seems to find a way of leaving placement early.

“She is convinced that first year doesn’t matter and when I’ve tried to talk to her about it she says she doesn’t want to miss out on the ‘student life’. I do get what she means – we live in halls with students from other courses who are constantly out – but it worries me how much she doesn’t seem to care.

“It’s not like she’s failing or anything – she leaves her assignments to the last minute but still gets an OK mark. I just worry that she’s going to miss out on learning the fundamentals, and to be honest it annoys me a bit because I know someone who really wanted to study nursing and missed out on a place.

“I’m not going to report her – she’s not actually done anything wrong and she is a friend. Does anyone have any tips on what I can say or do to make her respect the course a bit more?”

- Anonymous


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  • mind your business

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  • Honestly, it is your friend's concern not yours. You have enough to deal with and worry about with the demands of the course without worrying for her too. I appreciate you may find her attitude and behaviour frustrating and you want her to do well but at the end of the day what she does or does not do is entirely up to her which may well include failing at some point and that may be the wake up she needs or it may not bother her. Be a good friend by all means but you cant do this for her its up to her, concentrate on you.

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  • As a third year student I have to say that this course has a way of weeding out those that aren't suited or cut out for nursing...

    As for you, it's best you focus on your practice, your studies, your journey...

    At the end of the day, you can't take your friend through she has to do it for herself and if you push her you might just find you end up losing the friendship...

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  • Perhaps you are a little jealous.
    Your friend has more natural ability, and you are annoyed that she is doing enough to get by and not failing as you would if you followed her example.
    Get a life !

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  • Totally agree, I dont think if she carries on in that way she will pass so she will either fail or buck up and become all the better for it. Good luck, its a very very hard course with lots of challenges but hard work and balance will see you through!

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  • Wow, why is everyone being so mean? This person is clearly worried for their friend, and just wants to know if there's anything she can do before she possibly chucks her career down the toilet!

    There isn't a lot you can do, just keep your head down and work hard. Try not to get sucked into the "student life". Either she will pass or she won't that's up to her, and if she does...well, she can't complain about her grades either.

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