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'My friends assume they can come to me with all their ailments'


Can you advise this student nurse?

Whilst my friends are great and supportive of me, every time they have a cold or odd symptom - or even fall over on the way back from a night out - they expect me to instantly diagnose them.

“I initially didn’t mind but its becoming wearing, particularly when most of the time I tell them if they’re worried to go see a proper doctor.

“I don’t want to just tell them that it’s annoying me, but it happens quite a lot and I hate feeling like I don’t have an answer.

“Every time I say things to the tune of ’I don’t know why you have sore throat’ I feel like they must believe I’m bad at my course.

”What should I do - or how can I stop feeling bad when they ask me?”

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Readers' comments (2)

  • I tend to see the funny side of this one and it is very common.I have been enjoying a drink or a meal and someone will suddenly say. Phew my guts have ben aching....i had a massive bowel operations....All sorts of things. We do have the right to enjoy life and switch of. Eventually i pointed out that i would prefer not to hear it and if you don't point out the obvious they just carry on. there really is a time and a place for everything.
    firm and fair comment is best and yes you do run the risk of offending people because people love talking about there ailments ..end of !

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  • I do have a massive sympathy with you! However, right from the beginning I have always made sure they are clear about my level of knowledge! In that sense, they know I am doing well on my course and my knowledge are limited up to that point of study! After all we are obliged to do no harm and that should apply to our closest and dearest too!

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