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'My friends don't get how tough it is studying nursing'


Can you advise this student nurse?

“I love my friends; we’ve known each other since we were 13 or 14 years old. However, I’m feeling as though a rift has opened up between them and me because of what I’ve chosen to study.

“While some stayed closer to home for uni (thus farther from me), the ones that actually do live near me don’t understand my obligations as a student nurse. None of them study nursing.

“Last week, one friend texted and asked if I wanted to go and get a drink. When I said I couldn’t because I had to study she said that I never do anything fun anymore. It’s not that I don’t want to have fun or see my friends, it’s just extremely difficult to balance wanting to do well in my nursing course with wanting to prevent my friendships from withering away.

“How do I balance these things so I don’t lose my friends? Help!”

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Readers' comments (4)

  • Put the books down and have some fun. You cant study all the time you need down time to refresh. The break from study will do more good than harm, or you will just end up burning your self out, and risk losing you friends.

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  • I know that friends are important however I feel that if they were really your friend that they should understand that you want to do really well with your course. You should talk to them properly and tell them how you feel. After talking they may understand the pressure of you wanting to do well in our course. However I do feel like you should not focus too much on your course , try going out with your friends it can help release the stress of the course.

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  • Why not tell your friends when you are able to go out or be free so they can look at their diaries & see if they too can have the same time free/off. You must have time for fun nursing is hard enough.

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  • Time management and writing down what you have achieved. Its all about work life balance. Write a plan out so you can see what needs doing. don't let guilt get in the way of actually socialising occasionally.
    Real friends really don't fade away and stick to what you desire to do.
    I have nurses for 25 yrs and can honestly say it is tough profession to be in and is changing but the health care knowledge I have gained is so precious not only to myself,family,neighbours. you don't always get tanked but i am content and comfortable with my contribution.
    good luck

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