Can you advise this student nurse?
“I like to think I’m generally quite a likeable person but since starting placement in January I’m actually starting to question that! My mentor really seems to have taken a dislike to me.
“What makes it worse is that I now get really nervous around her because I know she doesn’t like me and then I forget everything I know and can’t answer simple questions and get too flustered to ask her when I don’t know something.
“Just to give you some examples – I was chatting at the nurses’ station to two HCAs on Monday and she came over and literally shouted at me in front of them and in front of a ward full of patients, calling me a gossip. It was honestly the first time I’d stopped all morning and she didn’t say anything to the HCAs who are actually being paid to work!
“Then I was helping her give a patient a bath and noticed that the patient was feeling exposed so went to get her a couple more towels so she could feel more covered. She actually didn’t say anything in front of the patient (which is a shame - I think she would have stood up for me!) but as soon as we were finished she told me I need to “learn the basics” and said I was being wasteful. Honestly, you’d think I’d started handing out medication the way she reacted! I was so embarrassed.
“I’m not going to win her over but any idea how I can challenge her perception of me – or at least ensure she gives me a fair assessment?!”
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