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ASK A STUDENT NURSE

'Should I let on that I’m unhappy?’

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Can you advise this student nurse?

“I don’t want to sound dramatic but I’m starting to think I might be depressed and I really don’t know what to do.

“Basically, I’m in the third year of my course and really feeling the pressure. I’m worried and just feel unhappy all the time.

“I’ve managed to behave as if nothing’s wrong when I’m around people, so if I started saying to my friends or anyone that I was depressed they’d probably just think I was attention seeking. I’m wondering whether I need to stop acting, so that I can tell people how I feel. Does that make sense?

“I’m not suicidal or anything like that, I’m just unhappy. What can I do?”

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  • You should let somebody know as soon as possible, the sooner you seek help, the sooner you are likely to feel better. Tell somebody you feel comfortable around or trust, such as a personal tutor, course leader or counsellor. Only if you really feel comfortable then seek advice from your friends as well, athough in my experience it was something that I dealt better with on my own with th help of the counsellor. Many people are understanding and many people experience depression, its nothing to be ashamed of and it can be helped. Hope this has been of some help :)

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  • You should speak to someone to let them know how you are feeling and what you are experiencing. It could be someone who you trust or a personal tutor, GP, the wellbeing and counselling service through your university or hospital where you are doing your placements. Try not to keep it to yourself and remember you don't have to tell everyone only people you trust and want to share this with.

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  • As someone who has suffered from depression in the past I can understand your fear of letting others know how you are feeling. I spent 6 months putting on a brave face when surrounded by my friends and acting as if nothing was wrong. It wasn't until I completely expectantly broke down in front of a group that I finally did something about it, and you know what, every one of them were so supportive and understanding. They gave me the encouragement to face up to the fact that I wasn't coping and take myself off to see the doctor to get help. By sharing it came to light that several of them were currently fighting their own personal battles with depression that I was totally unaware of. Remember, no-one is superhuman, although as nurses if often feels like we are. Depression is not a failure, it's just a little baggage that you can carry on your shoulder if you get help. Good luck xx

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  • As one who has yo-yo'd in and out of depressive episodes most of their life and a former mental health nurse, I would concur with what has already been said: you need to do something about it. Now whether that something is some class of talking therapy or something pharmacological can only be decided following discussion with someone who knows something about it - GP, occupational health, university counselling service and the like.

    I thought that my experiences of depression helped me do my job better, as I had some idea what people were talikng about and experiencing.

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  • When I was training to be a nurse which was mild, they kicked me off the course straight away, and only reinstated after threatening the disability discrimination act. They then made me see a psychiatrist who was really angry that they wasted his time. I had had depression in the past which they knew about, but none on the course, this was one and a half years into the course, so not all aspects of depression are treated sympathetically within the NHS, though I'm hoping things have improved since then (2005).

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  • When I was training to be a nurse which was mild, they kicked me off the course straight away, and only reinstated after threatening the disability discrimination act. They then made me see a psychiatrist who was really angry that they wasted his time. I had had depression in the past which they knew about, but none on the course, this was one and a half years into the course, so not all aspects of depression are treated sympathetically within the NHS, though I'm hoping things have improved since then (2005).

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  • i have sufred with depression and mental illness for a long time. i let it get so bad that i nearly lost everything and was sectioned under the mental health act. Please dont let it get that bad. speak to youre gp and ask for help. im sure that by just doing that you will feel some relief. im now back working as a nurse and feeling better, im still working through it but have developed coping techniques and have learned to spot when things are getting bad. there are a lot of good support networks around these days youre GP can stear you in the right direction.

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  • For most people Nurse Training can be a rude awakening particularly if one comes from a sheltered environment and one is subjected to intensely disturbing facts of life, you must learn to communicate with your collegues, family and friends and they will help you through this difficult period of your life.
    The main lesson to learn is not to take on the Worlds Problems , even our Worlds leaders can not cope with this.Best wishes for the futurehelp where you can and gradually learn over the years to come to cope with more , take it steady you will last longer.

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  • I am in my 3 rd yr and feels exactly the same. More so its the mentors are instilling the pressure on me.I have to write 4 reflections based on the 4 domains of nursing as well as using guidelines/clinical documents/policy and procedure on each one of them. They need a huge amount of anatomy & physiology etc. They forget that I have assignments to write, exams to prepare for,dissertation writing and a family to care for(husband & 3 kids). Honestly its hard,and I can imagine what my colleague is going through. I have managed to stay calm and prioritise as well as keeping a smile on my face at all times. The last thing I want to hear is failing a placement. Best wishes to my colleagues in the same boat as me.

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  • Anonymous | 6-Feb-2015 10:01 am

    will anybody demanding this work actually appraise it and offer you some useful feedback from it?

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