Can you advise this student nurse?
“This isn’t really a question about nursing I’m afraid but it is affecting me on placement so I’m hoping you’ll still publish it!
“I don’t know whether I should tell staff on placement that I’m gay. I know this sounds like a really minor thing but as soon as you tell someone it becomes gossip but it feels wrong lying about it, like I’m ashamed which I’m not. I just don’t want it to become what I’m known for.
“Even though it’s something that I accept myself, I find it really hard to tell people especially as everyone just assumes that you’re straight so it turns into a sort of announcement when you tell anyone. I lost a friend a year or so ago because of her prejudices and it’s made me really nervous to talk about my sexuality.
“My mentor asked me if I had a boyfriend in my initial interview and I didn’t feel ready to reveal that part of myself, I just said I wasn’t seeing anyone and then asked some stupid question about the number of beds on the ward!
“What have other gay student nurses done? So far I’ve just lied by omission but when someone asks you outright if you have a boyfriend it’s difficult to avoid!
“Anyone else been in this situation? Any brilliant responses to love-life questions that I can steal?”
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