Can you advise this student nurse?
“I am really struggling to make friends with other nurses and people on my placements. This isn’t my first placement so it has been a issue for me for a while.
”A few of us went for a drink after my shift on placement the other day which was nice but I always seem to struggle to differentiate between the person I am as a nurse and the person I am when I am socialising.
“Also (and this is pretty uncomfortable for me to mention) I think my mentor is attracted to me. I don’t need any lectures about right and wrong and I get the strong impression from him that he knows it is wrong. I really don’t think he would do anything about it, but I am intrigued by him I have to say, and neither of us are exactly teenagers anymore! Although I could be totally wrong of course!
”Maybe this is why I am scared of letting myself go around colleagues here, but it is much bigger than this and has been going on ever since I was working part-time when I was young.
“Has anyone else experienced not being able to let yourself go outside of work?
”I have now started to make excuses and saying that I’m busy as partly I’m scared of doing or saying something to harm my prospects of getting signed-off.
“I feel so antisocial and disliked - or if not disliked, like people think there isn’t much to my personality. But there is! And I really want to make friends as this is such a great opportunity to do so.
“What can I do?”
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